The first time with a baby can be nerve-wracking: the little creature who recently moved in turns the days and nights upside down. Especially in the first years of life, it is quite normal and to a certain extent it means that your baby wakes up and cries at night.
But even if it is normal and we parents don’t have to worry too much in this case, you naturally want to help your child. There are many reasons why babies wake up and cry at night. I present the 10 most common in this article. With tips to calm your baby quickly and gently. For me, the following always applies: The proximity of mom and / or dad is the most important thing. Under no circumstances should crying babies be left alone (unless you are really done and take a moment to catch your breath. In this case, you should briefly go out, take a deep breath, and then go back to your child.)
1. Your baby is hungry (or wants to suck)
Does your baby cry at night? The most common reason for this is that it is hungry.
But what if you just fed your child and it still cries? Then it may still be hungry or still hungry. Babies have a very small stomach and digest the milk relatively quickly. Therefore, your baby may be hungry a short time after breastfeeding or feeding. In this case, you should simply put it on again or feed it. The assumption that you should wait a certain time after a meal because the baby will otherwise have digestive problems no longer applies. In certain phases, it is also quite normal for babies to want to be constantly breast fed or fed. These phases are called “clusters” and are simply part of them. The best thing you can do then is to satisfy your baby’s need.
If your baby cries and wants to the breast or the bottle, but does not drink, it may well be that it is not hungry and just wants to suck. Your baby is an infant up to the age of 1 and has a natural need to suck and suck. It is important that you as a mom are there with food, smell and voice and give your baby security.
2. Your baby is too warm or too cold
In the first few months of life, your baby first has to get used to the new environment. It finally comes from your stomach, where it was always cozy and warm and all sounds were muffled. Doctors and midwives recommend a room temperature of 16-18 ° C for sleeping. However, this is only a guideline and you will quickly notice whether your baby likes it a little warmer or cooler. The temperature perception is different for every baby.
Therefore, you should look for your baby individually at what temperature, in which pajamas and with which sleeping bag it feels most comfortable. Your baby may also prefer a certain fabric or may not like it if the feet are covered with fabric. So the rule here is: try it out and see how the child reacts.
The best way to test whether your baby is too warm or too cold is on the neck. It should not feel sweaty or cold, but warm and dry.
3. Your baby is disturbed by too bright a light
Perhaps inconspicuous for you, but a light in the room can be a disturbing factor for your baby. Especially when it shines directly into bed. Be it a ajar room door that lets a crack of light through and shines right into your baby’s face. Or the light of a street lamp that comes into the room through a crack in the curtain.
Make sure that no light around your baby’s sleeping environment is shining directly on the face. No matter in which direction it turns.
Night lights that are plugged in are ideal if you still want some light in the room. Their light is dim and soft, so they are unlikely to bother your baby.
4. Your baby was startled by a loud noise
Did your baby wake up right after a loud noise? Then it may well be that it is scared.
Maybe it only woke up a few minutes after the sound. Or it is not really awake at all and lies there with closed eyes and screams.
Do you know that? When the alarm clock rings slowly into your sleep and you hear it before you wake up. Your baby may have felt the same way with the sound.
Sit or sit down with your child and show them that you are there. Tell him quietly what happened. That something has fallen, but everything is good and it can go on sleeping comfortably. Some children calm down quickly and fall asleep again, while others actually have to wake up to digest the shock. In this case, it is often good for the child to be hugged and cuddled by mom or dad.
5. Your baby was sick recently
Our bodies often need time to recover from diseases. If your baby has recently been sick and wakes up screaming at night, it can be after effects of the disease. In this case, perseverance is the order of the day. For you, just like for your child. A lot of cuddling and a warming session can help to increase well-being.
6. Your baby fell asleep while rocking
Do you know that? Your baby has fallen asleep in your arms with a rocking motion. Then you put it in its crib and a short time later it wakes up and screams. If your baby is very sensitive, it is best to keep rocking it until it is in the deep sleep phase. This begins after about 20 minutes.
You can check that your baby is really sleeping soundly by lifting your arm slightly and then releasing it. If the arm falls down like a stone, your baby will sleep soundly.
7. Your baby is growing
Babies grow in spurts or jumps. On a night, your baby has a growth spurt, it can grow a good deal. Physically and just as mentally. During such a “push”, your baby may wake up and cry at night. Because it feels uncomfortable or has growth-related pain.
Unfortunately, you cannot really do anything here. Except holding out and being there for your baby. Because this is probably also an uncomfortable time for your baby.
In this book you can find out in which week of life you can expect the jumps, what is going on in your baby, how other mothers were in this growth phase and how you can help your baby in this difficult time.
It also provides support on days of uncertainty (is it normal for my baby to behave like this?). It also creates self-confidence (you as a mom have more than anyone else a feeling for what your baby needs!), More understanding for your baby and his sometimes difficult growth jumps and much more.
8. There is a change in your baby’s daily routine
Babies process a lot at night. A change in the daily routine can also be a reason for screaming at night.
For example, if the dad or a sibling is on vacation or vacation and is therefore at home. Or on the contrary, if dad is traveling or the sibling is spending a weekend with grandma and grandpa, this can be a reason for waking up and screaming at night. Tell your baby why his routine is different than usual. Your baby needs time to process the changes.